Harvesting Rage: The Sacred Fire Within
We don’t talk about anger enough—not honestly. Especially not as women. Many of us were raised to believe anger was bad, shameful, or even dangerous. We were told to be nice, polite, pleasing. We were misattuned to, left alone in our big feelings. No one showed us how to feel rage without burning down the house—or ourselves.
But here’s the truth:
Anger is a primary emotion. It’s instinctual. A flare signal from the nervous system that says, Something isn’t right here.
It’s not wrong. It’s information.
What often causes harm is not the feeling itself, but the way we suppress, deny, or explode with it because we were never taught to feel and release it safely.
🌪 Why We Shut It Down
Maybe your anger was met with punishment or silence. Maybe you were told to stop crying, to calm down, to "be good."
So you learned to shove it deep inside. But buried emotions don’t disappear—they ferment. Over time, repressed rage can manifest as:
Chronic tension and pain
Passive-aggressive behavior
Shame and self-blame
Emotional shutdown or explosive outbursts
Resentment toward others or even your own body
And maybe worst of all—it can cut you off from your own power. Anger is the emotion of boundaries, of truth, of aliveness. Without it, we shrink. We settle. We disconnect.
🔥 Reclaiming Your Rage
Let’s get honest. We do feel anger. And bottling it up isn’t noble—it’s harmful.
So what if, instead of shaming it, we honored it? What if we harvested it like sacred fire—hot, bright, and illuminating?
Here’s how I’ve learned to move with anger instead of against it:
1. Feel it in the moment
Notice the burn. The tight chest. The clenching jaw. The buzzing nerves.
Say it: I feel angry. That alone can be radical.
2. Let it move through
I journal like fire is coming out of my fingertips. I say the thing I couldn’t say out loud. I walk. I cry. I shake. I hit a pillow. I breathe through it.
3. Return with compassion
After it passes, I reread the journal. I often find sadness underneath. A part of me needing to be seen. Heard. Understood. Anger is my body’s way of saying: Alert. Something needs to change.
Anger Is Sacred
The more I’ve listened to my rage, the more I’ve understood it.
And the more I’ve honored it, the less it rules me.
It no longer shows up unannounced. It speaks clearly. And it leaves just as quickly, because it knows I’m listening now.
Anger isn’t something to fear. It’s something to befriend.
It teaches you where your boundaries are. Where your heart has been hurt. Where your soul is calling for change.
Let’s stop apologizing for our rage.
Let’s learn to feel it fully—then let it move us toward truth, healing, and fulfillment.
Because when we process it with love, we don’t hurt others. We don’t shrink ourselves.
We rise with clarity, rooted in self-respect.
And that’s where our power lives.
With fire & love,
Ilda